This week in class we have been
discussing marital intimacy and infidelity.
Sexual intimacy is very important within the marriage. Sexual intimacy is
a very sacred thing; this is why it should be kept within the bonds of
marriage. Sexual intimacy within the
bonds of marriage is very sacred but not necessarily secret, it is just
sacred. We should treat sacred things
with great respect and not talk about them lightly! Sacred things are to stay and be talked about
in certain settings.
Infidelity is another topic that
has been discussed this week in class.
Poor marital intimacy is one reason that can lead to infidelity but it
isn’t the only reason and it does not always lead to infidelity. If a spouse develops a simple friendship with
a member of the opposite sex, if they are not careful it can lead to something
more. We learned this week that when you
are married, the only time you really should be talking to a friend of the
opposite sex is for school or for work.
If a spouse confides in a friend in an opposite sex, and their feelings
are validated and listened to, I know it may sound crazy but there is a big
risk of them falling in love with the friend because they validated their
feelings. Even Facebook can be dangerous. Avoid having any private
conversations with a member of the opposite sex even through Facebook. Sometimes couples feel more comfortable to
conjoin their Facebooks when they are married and each one can clearly see the
other spouse’s activity.
One thing we read about for our
reading for class was about stage coaches. I believe it is by President Lee. There were people applying for the job of being a stage coach driver.
One drove on the very edge trying to impress the employer. Another stage coach driver drove as far away
from the edge as he could. The one who
got the job was the one that stayed far away from the edge. The one who got the
job was the one that stayed the farthest away from the edge. He was the safest. We should live our lives like this. We should not try to see how close to the
edge as we can but instead, star as far away as we can from the edge and find
the safest way.
What are some ways to stay away
from the edge, stay away from infidelity and keep our marital intimacy
strong? We must communicate with our
spouse. Communication is very important
in a marriage. We need to have a family council at least once a week and talk
about important things that could be worked on. We must set our boundaries with others outside
of our spouse and talk to each other what the boundaries should be and make an
agreement. Marriage and marital intimacy
is an amazing thing! It does however take time, effort, teamwork and a lot of
communication
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